Review of the “I Love Female Orgasm” Book, Authors: Dorian Solot & Marshall Miller

Yes, I do love female orgasm. What’s not to love? Ok, so maybe your orgasms are a little lack luster. That can be changed!

I Love Female Orgasm boasts itself as “an extraordinary orgasm guide”, and it definitely delivers. There’s probably a good chance you already know some of the things mentioned in this book, but I think everyone can learn at least a little something from it. I Love Female Orgasm is chock full of information, instructions, random interesting facts/stories/background information, and it’s very friendly and sex-positive. Those who don’t fit the straight female category will also be pleased to know that I Love Female Orgasm is friendly to all sexual orientations and tries to touch on information for everyone.

“One of the cool things about a subject like female orgasm is that it’s about a woman’s body, not her sexual orientation.”

Information You Can Expect:

How to have an orgasm during intercourse & why most women don’t

Although it does touch on positions that I already know are helpful for female orgasm during intercourse, there is an exercise designed to help the body learn to orgasm from penetration alone. Basically, get as close to orgasm as possible and then use a toy to thrust and complete orgasm. (There’s more to it, but you get the drift.) I’ve been working on this and I have seen some improvement. Still haven’t had an orgasm with just hubby penetrating me, but I will someday! (This section does have scribbly line drawings of naked couples. They’re fairly cartoonish and non-threatening, but I figure it’s best to let everyone know.)

Directions on finding your way to the G-spot and female ejaculation

Not only do the authors provide the history behind the discovery of the G-spot, they also include a diagram and detailed instructions on how to find it. If you’re curious about female ejaculation, this is a great section. I haven’t quite mastered this yet, but I tend to get impatient with wanting an orgasm. One of these days I’ll try to slow down and try out their techniques. Hopefully, if/when I do female ejaculate, I won’t make a huge mess. Hubby would definitely get on my case for that. He’s just like that.

Detailed advice on how to have an orgasm

This includes information on how those girly parts work, and there’s even some info on how to turn your man into a multi-orgasmic one! I think I’ll probably have to test that out on hubby sometime. There’s quite a bit of information on masturbation, including some common myths that possibly discourage women from doing it.

Advice for better oral sex

That means oral sex for you, ladies! It’s time our lips get some licking! This section addresses issues with oral sex self-esteem (Maybe you won’t let anyone near it because you think it smells or it’s ugly.), how to approach your partner for it, a detailed chart of positions and details, and lots more. (This section does have scribbly line drawings of naked couples. They’re fairly cartoonish and non-threatening, but I figure it’s best to let everyone know.)

Tips on surfing waves of multiple orgasms (even if you usually have just one)

There is nothing wrong with wanting more than one orgasm. However, attempting some of their techniques may wear you out or make you wake up with a pleasant post-ecstasy soreness the next morning. No, I’m not kidding. Sometimes my legs are sore the next morning if I have a really good orgasm session the day before.

Answers to your questions about vibrators, sex toys, piercings, and more

Vibrators and sex toys? (Vibrators are sex toys.)Yeah, I know plenty about those and there was nothing new. However, I knew nothing about piercings before reading this book. It’s interesting how getting a piercing can make certain areas more sensitive and orgasm-provoking, but I don’t think I’ll be getting any.

The real deal on orgasms for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women

I told you it was friendly to all sexual orientations. This section has information on inducing orgasms through female/female sex, challenges these women may face, interesting facts about female/female pairs in nature, a note on the general term “queer” and what it really means, plus some information and stories on transgendered individuals.

An entire chapter for men on how to turn her on and get her off, plus tips for partners in every chapter

Ok, more than just men can learn from this chapter, and the authors admit that. Being a great lover for a woman doesn’t mean that you have to be a man. And just because this section is directed at my partner, that doesn’t mean I can’t learn a thing or two. I definitely like the section on “Advanced Penisology”. If you’ve ever freaked out over your partner not keeping an erection (IE You thought it was your fault and you’re just not sexy enough), you need to read this. It’s not your fault, and it’s not theirs either.

Knocking at the back door

For those who are anally curious, I Love Female Orgasm offers some information and techniques for enjoying anal sex and achieving orgasm through it. This is a rather short section, but it does have some interesting information.

Preventing babies and bugs

Yes, there’s a section on various methods of birth control and safer sex practices. This includes an 8-page detailed chart on birth control methods and quite a bit more information on that subject and STDS. Very important stuff, people!

And more…

Yes, there’s much more that is included in this book, but I doubt that you want me jabbering on for too much longer.

What Bothers Me

The one thing that bothers me is that proper toy safety is glossed over.

Among the list of things to keep in mind while using anal sex toys, the authors made no mention of using condoms on porous toys. This quote bothers me in particular:

“Don’t use a toy for vaginal contact after it’s been in your anus unless you’ve washed it or put on a fresh condom.”

Porous toys like ones made with TPR can’t just be washed after anal use and then used for vaginal stimulation. Soft, porous materials can harbor and breed bacteria no matter how thoroughly you wash them. Also, not all toys can be fully sterilized; porous toys can’t. Always condom any toy that is not silicone, glass, metal, or solid plastic if you’re going to use it for vaginal play after anal play.

Also, material safety is very important when picking out a sex toy! Some sex toy materials can be toxic! The authors, however, did not include this in their “factors to consider when buying a vibe”. In their list were: shape, power, price, sound, color and style. Apparently safety isn’t a factor to be considered.

What I Love

I Love Female Orgasm is as entertaining as it is informational. I am not a reader. Unless something has interesting facts or some cheery quirk to it, I’ll probably never get past the first few sentences. I have a tiny attention span like that; I just don’t like to sit down and dedicate my time to one thing (multi-tasker) unless I’m really into it.

Even though I thought I knew a lot, this book still had quite a few tricks up it’s sleeves for me. There’s some great information on these pages. Plus, there are plenty of stories, facts, exercises for solo play/couples play. There’s little bubbles of stories and facts on almost every page. I love that! I have a short attention span, ok? One of my favorite bubbles talks about a sex ed party trick. Blow up two regular latex condoms, tie them off, put water-based lube on one and oil-based lube on the other. Now jabber and go on for a while and wait for the condom balloon with the oil-based lube on it to pop and scare the bajeebies out of everyone!

Also, the great thing about this book is, not only are you helping yourself, but you’re also helping other women! Because Dorian Solot is a breast cancer survivor, 10% of the book royalties are donated Breast Cancer Action. That means more possible birthdays for these women and more possibly awesome orgasms!

Rating: 4.5/5 I still think more attention should have been paid to sex toy safety, but I love I Love Female Orgasm (That was kind of redundant… Oh well!) Honestly, this book is the sex ed class I wish I had in middle school. I Love Female Orgasm has all you’ll ever need to know about female orgasm and more! It’s definitely a must-have for the bookshelf!